10% – 90% of Your Life

I remember a time when I read an article about how the action you take will affect the rest of your day. It said that 10% of event that happen to a person is beyond someone control and the rest of 90% is depends on how we react to the 10%.

The article shown a good sample of what is mean by the 10-90. But here I’ll not repeat the same sample but to show you the similar think as what was happened between Manchester United vs Liverpool on December 11, 2012, especially about the decision made by Luis Suarez.

Suarez came to Old Trafford after completing his sentence suspended eight games due to case racism against Patrice Evra. This time both player will face each other for the first time.

For sportmanship’s reason, all games shall be started with handshake between player of two teams. This event is part of the 10% that beyond Suarez control, and his reaction to this handshake will lead how the rest 90% will be ending, which is will be good or bad ending.

As we all the football lovers knew very well, despite the statement of Liverpool’s manager Kenny Dalglish that said Suarez would shake hands with Evra, Suarez unexpectedly refused to shake hands. This action then lead Suarez to the chain reaction as follow:

1. The tension of the game was increased.
2. Little accident between players during halftime when heading to changing room.
3. Evra did an excessive celebration for mocking Suarez, which I’m sure if Liverpool won the game, Suarez will did the same thing to Evra.
4. As the result of the celebration, other players become emotional which forced the security/ police and the game steward involved to calm all players.
5. FA conducted an investigation about the chaos in the game, although finally both teams decided not sentenced to anything.
6. The sponsor of Liverpool get disappointed with Suarez’s action, which make the Liverpool owner strongly warned Suarez, and finally Suarez once again have to apologize to public and to Manchester United.

So, by had been acting negatively to the 10%, Suarez has chosen to make the rest of 90% become worse.
Can you imagine what would happened if Suarez made the handshake to Evra or even more dramatic to hug Evra? Yup.. of course everyone will see Suarez as a big gentlemen and all the 6 items above will not happened. But, unfortunately, Suarez has made terrible decision.

Please remember the formula of 10-90, and I’m sure that you will think more clearly when you face such a bad 10% of your day that beyond your control to get a good thing of the rest 90%.

Have a good day 😀

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One lie leads to another

Good night everyone.

This is a DVD cover of a movie titled : “Tipu Kanan Tipu Kiri” (in English: Lying Here Lying There). This is a comedian romantic movie which gives us a lesson of the consequences of lying. This movie showing the story of Wulan, a famous superstar, who attached to an agreement that stated she can’t marry while she is in contract to a sponsor. Unfortunately, she already married to Rudy, a General Manager in a company in Kuala Lumpur. Because of this situation, they had to hide their marriage to public, and that’s how the chaotic situation begins. The lie begins when Rudy’s boss want to make his welcome party with condition Rudy has to bring his wife. After sharing with a friend, his friend suggests him a stupid way to solve the problem by hiring a girl to pretend to be his wife. Rudy refuse at the first time, but his friend can convince him that everything will be just fine. They hire Sara, a club singer. At first, Sara refuses the job, but after seeing the hospitality of Rudy she agreed finally and even she fall in love to Rudy. Their plan work, but then Rudy has to continue to hire the girl because his boss’ wife invites them once again. There is one conflict when Wulan come home and ask Rudy to pick her sister but Rudy looks like not interested, and its make Wulan get angry. Rudy sing a song that Sara had sang in Rudy’s boss party to calm down Wulan, and its work. But then the song was used by Wulan in her next album, and Sara really disappointed because her song stolen by her idol star. And that’s how Rudy get trapped into so many problems.

This movie really shows us how one single lie will lead us to another. We have to lie again to hide our previous lie and it will continue further and further, before we realize that we have become a different person.

I’ve been hiding a big secret for more than five years. A big secret that force me to lie to every person I know. That moment was very hard. It make me an introvert, a personality that completely different with the real me. At last, the secret found its way to reveal, and I also started to feel both tense and release. Its make me realize that hiding something is very hard and will not bring you any good in your life. It’s just a matter of time until your lies revealed.

So, be honest to your family and friend. Don’t start to make a lie because it can change the way you are.

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Keep Smiling..!! :D

Hello everyone.

I remember one of Barney & Friends’ songs about how they welcome the morning everyday. I don’t exactly remember the lyrics but it’s says to put a big smile on your face everyday in the morning and soon you will find the whole world smile back to you. It is a child song, but I think it is for everyone, every gender, no matters how old you are, what you do and where you come from.

Smiling is fun yet powerful. If you meet stranger on the street and you give your smile, he/she for sure will also smile for you. If you have been introduced to someone by someone else, the first thing you do must be smiling. By smiling to someone, you give hospitality and a sign that you are friendly and won’t do any harm to people. 

For more than 2 years, I’ve been working in high pressure situation. I’m a tank builder and with my position as project engineer, I have done so many times arguing about differences interpretation with client. Sometimes the client interpreted the code or standard different with I did. Usually, their interpretation will charge me more cost, while in the other hand, my interpretation will lowering their standard. In that situation combine with mostly hot temperature on site, will make you can’t thinking clearly and won’t give you any solution. If the solution can not achieve, it will taken into meeting room. The result of the meeting will depend on our attitude. If the member entered the room with a tense expression, the discussion will spent long time and the conversation will be tough. So, the first time good thing to do is smiling since the beginning you entered the room so that the member will know that you are came to looking for solution. With this kind of attitude, the meeting usually ended with win-win solution.

Make this smiling face as a habit. So many good things will happen to you everyday. When you see the sun rice on the east, do not forget to put the best smile on your face, and the whole world will smile back to you. Everyday will be another happy day :D.

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